vignettes from the life of a detrans twitter addict
It looks like strength. It looks like maturity.
You are brave do not ever forget that.
grace, wherever you happen to go in the future, know that we are behind you and that there is no shame to be found in what you have gone through. your writing touches me not only because you’re incredibly articulate but because i have a very similar situation, and while being confronted with nothing but your own thoughts after years is INSANE, my brain feels so much clearer in private - i appreciate more than i can say seeing someone else make the same revelations, and i do hope it will be helpful for those mired in internet discourse, feeling separate from the self. i’ve been taking a twitter break since august and it feels like simultaneously i am adrift somewhere, but the pressure created by the online is slowly draining out - my mind feels brighter in some ways, and the diminished opportunity for public spiralling can never be a bad thing. while there were many benefits to the communion i found, staying off social media has made my life feel almost normal, possible, and if that’s the route you decide that will bring you peace, people will certainly celebrate the insight and humour you brought to their lives, but also honour any decision that benefits your health (especially since so much of this community’s struggle is one of finding self respect!).
what i’m trying to say is, this article really got to me and i think it would benefit so many people to step back and take the same considerations. you’re amazing, and i hope your twitter break has brought you many positives despite the weird blankness of ‘so i’m meant to just keep these thoughts inside forever?’
❤️good idea to take a twitter break. I’m not an expert but I think you might be a really good writer!
Twitter is a mind killer— it’s a demon that’s hard to know how to keep at arm’s length. Your voice and experience has helped more people than it’s pissed off, but I don’t believe there’s a strict timeline for when these things needs to happen.
Take care of yourself ❤️
You are brave and an inspiration. I am grateful for all you have done to bring awareness - even at such a cost. Your future holds many great surprises and joys for you!
Yes - keep writing!!
I want my child to read this. But I wonder, will she understand the raw emotion and regret or will it just strengthen her resolve that she is the true trans among the thousands like her? Thank you for your vulnerability. Do what is best for your health.
You are an excellent writer. I enjoy reading your entries
So glad you can still have kids if you want to. Top surgery is by no means the worst option of those offered to deluded unknowing hopeful optimistic people in pain.
Please write some more when you can or want to. Your writing is great and women like you help make it real for those who still live in woo woo land with unicorns.
I go on 2-4 day trips in the forest where I live. It is the best thing.
Grace, I'm trying to reach you about an event I'm hosting in NYC in March. Helena was to do it but alas, she's unable to travel to NY - I *think* you live there? Can you get me your email/cell to speak w you abt this. I did Benjamin's show and saw you there and on 60 min. I produced this film. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUeqEoARKOA